“Ick!”
by David Benjamin
“This
is judicial activism at its worst. The Constitution entrusts state
legislatures, elected by the People, to define marriage consistent with the
values and mores of their citizens. Unelected judges should not be imposing
their policy preferences to subvert the considered judgments of democratically
elected legislatures.”
MADISON,
Wis. — On the long list of Things I Wanna Watch, two guys kissing each other is
pretty far down there. But I can stand it — especially if it has symbolic and
political significance, as it did this week when the Supreme Court allowed
marriage equality in five more states, including Wisconsin.
I’m
less enthusiastic about watching a couple of guys, say, drinking champagne out
of their navels and licking hot fudge off each other’s nipples. Actually, this
is something I’d prefer not to see even if it’s a guy and a girl with great
bodies, vintage champagne and that famous fudge from Mackinac Island.
I’m
even a little squeamish about that scene in Basic Instinct — you know, where Sharon Stone is naked, mounted on
this guy in the throes of orgasmic ecstasy. It’s not that I don’t appreciate
Ms. Stone (or, probably, her body double) in the nude, nicely tanned, bouncing
and exercising vigorously. My issue is privacy. Notwithstanding a Sexual
Revolution in which I participated eagerly, I’ve always regarded serious sex —
nakedness, awkward positions, body fluids, climaxes, yelling involuntarily, etc. — as something you do without an
audience. Movie sex scenes can be vital to the narrative, but I’m always
ambivalent as I stare at the screen. Even as I succumb to the cheap thrill of
vicarious passion, I can’t help but feel vaguely like a pervert peering through
Ralph and Alice’s bedroom window.
So,
when Sharon grabs the ice-pick and plunges it repeatedly into her lover, I’m
relieved. The movie has steered its way to the safe harbor of blood, guts,
murder and mayhem — which, at least in America — offer a far more socially
acceptable form of family amusement. Everybody watches fictional people shoot,
stab, strangle and dismember other fictional people. This is good clean,
make-believe fun and we’re not embarrassed to admit that we consume it.
Many
of us also watch hardcore porn. But we tend to do so surreptitiously, because
there’s a measure of peeping-Tom in this sort of pleasure. We feel a little
creepy watching people do something that we ourselves do behind closed doors
with the lights out and the shades down, so that the children, or the neighbors
— or people who know how to do it
better — won’t see.
Whether
we call ourselves liberal or conservative, most of us agree that sexual display
has limits, and that venturing beyond that pale is unseemly, unsightly and
uncivilized — not to mention frightening the horses.
This
is why the right-wing angst over same-sex marriage is so fascinating. There
seems to be a real dread among so-called conservatives that gay people,
especially men, don’t subscribe to the taboo about against pulling out your
privates in public. A lot of gay marriage opponents, notably Supreme Court
Justice Antonin Scalia, are honestly afraid that all the queers are going to
start doing it in the road.
Scalia
has difficulty uttering terms like “same-sex marriage.” He prefers the far more
clinical formulation, “homosexual sodomy.” This explicit usage suggests a
perception both voyeuristic and apocalyptic. Justice Scalia, who has clearly
managed to avoid any knowing contact with openly gay people for more than 70
years, has been shaken by the millions of Americans who “came out” of a closet
that was traditionally reserved for gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender
people.
Justice
Scalia typifies the fear that gay people — whose sexuality is both aberrant and
mysterious to him — will go beyond marrying, adopting and raising children.
They will also express their unconventional libidos in alarmingly
non-traditional ways, forsaking the discretion that supposedly governs
heterosexual love. They will — dear God, help us! — commence to sodomize one another
right out in the open, on the sidewalk, in elevators, in the waiting room at
the podiatrist’s office, on the benches at the mall with hot fudge, in the pews
at the First Presbyterian as the pastor leads the faithful in “Onward,
Christian Soldiers.”
Justice
Scalia suffers perpetual homophobic panic because of the “ick factor,” a
visceral terror of watching grown men — many of them as flabby and hairy as
Justice Scalia — doing nasty things together in front of throngs of moms all
gaping with disgust, covering their kids’ eyes and saying, “Ew! Ick! Gross!”
Justice
Scalia’s army of alarmists seem not to appreciate the very closet where they
locked their gay brothers and sisters for centuries. Gay people have always had
sex with one another. However, as a matter of self-preservation — not to
mention good taste — they did so far more secretly than their heterosexual
peers.
Privacy
has had to be more dearly protected in the gay community than in the 007,
strip-club, topless-bar, skin-flick, Pet-of-the-Month sexual culture populated
by the rest of us. After all, for most of my life, you could be killed for
being a little bit swishy. And then there’s Rock Hudson. After kissing Doris
Day a hundred times on-screen, he was dead of AIDS before anyone knew he was
gay.
All
those strait-laced “Christian” straights — who’ve seen too many YouTube clips
of gay-pride parades — seem to believe that “coming out” is the same as
“strutting your stuff.” Better they should ponder, with empathy and admiration,
how gay life was presciently defined by Paul 2,000 years ago, when he told the
Thessalonians, “to aspire to live quietly, to mind your own affairs.”
They
do already. And they will. Watch.
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